Our Lives are Based on our Perception

When you change your perception, you change how you see EVERYTHING.

We go to school and we believe that we all live in a real world.

I say it’s all an illusion. An illusion we all buy into every moment.

The teachers: they’re not being their real self. They’re in their ”teacher” role. Most people are different at work than they are at home.

Your friends:  They know that if they reveal too much of themselves they will get teased – because it’s happened before to them.  Your friends have ideas, thoughts, and beliefs they will never share with people because they are scared of having these things made fun of.  Therefore,  your friends are only the people that they are allowing you to see.

Other students:  These other students know that at any time they have the ability to be made fun of or be bullied by someone.  You just may be that person…but they don’t know. So they will try to gauge what others, that are not in their close group of friends, will like and tell them exactly what they want to hear.

Adults (parents included):  They have decided that they don’t want to be hurt by anyone, and have created a facade to show the whole world. They are also protecting their life story from people, especially their children, because of the mistakes or actions they choose to do aren’t what they want to be proud of. They feel if they share too much, you will judge them for those mistakes they made. When you speak to an adult, you are speaking to and talking to the facade or the masks that will protect them.  They might be playing a specific role that they have found is appropriate for this conversation that they are engaging in.

You – You are doing the same thing. You’re not your real self, you are a created person that is hiding a lot.  You’re probably hiding your real self  so you won’t get hurt, teased, or bullied.

In essence, there are a lot of fake people walking around being fake to one another


There are a bunch of actors acting out roles, and everyone believes that those roles are real.

As Shakespeare said -  “We are just players on a stage.”

So – Your schooling is not real, it’s all an illusion. The people you know, aren’t real…they are merely the person they are pretending to be. The government isn’t real, it’s a creatiojn of paper and power. Your life is only as real as you see it is. Reality TV isn’t real, it’s a clever creation of edits, camera angles, and sound bites to elicit the story they want to portray. Your job isn’t real, it’s a company created to provide a service. They created a machine to provide that service, and you are a “gear” in that machine. It’s really all an illusion created to be what we call “normal”, and normality depends on a lot fo socialized ideas and illusions themselves.

Just like the illusion that violence is normal.

Just like the illusion that there is no teen dating abuse.

Just like the illusion that a couple’s fight is their own problem.

Just like the illusion that media(TV, games, magazines) doesn’t affect us.

Look past the illusions and do something to prevent the problems in our world and the violence that plagues it!

How could you do this?


Chad Herman - Motivatingforpositivechange.com

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Robert Saltzman February 08, 2013 at 03:04 PM
"There are a bunch of actors acting out roles, and everyone believes that those roles are real" I once heard an actor say he fears that his fans would find out who who he really is... I have re-invented mysef a few times.... I always say under this rough and tumble exterior I'm really a warm compassionate, & sensitive guy!!! Hey you got a problem with that? ..LOL
Gary Moos February 08, 2013 at 06:02 PM
@Chad: What you have just expressed is a vast oversimplification of the way things work. You make it sound like everything is an illusion and nothing is real. The very word “real” is formed out of lines arranged into what we call letters. And those letters mean little until they are put together in a specific order to form words. The letters, the lines, and the words mean nothing until people agree on their meanings. Without these agreed-upon constructs we are floating in a world of potential information that never becomes realized because our communication is severely limited. Well, I’m living proof that sometimes things are very real. While walking on the ice, my companion and I noticed a cracking sound. That sound was real, and when we fell through the ice, that was real. And when he tried to get out of the freezing water by climbing over my back, that was real. My head going under the water was real. Getting away from him was real. The man who refused to help us was real. What wasn’t real was the headline I saw in my mind, “Two Teens Drown While Dock Worker Looks On.” But climbing out of the water and back onto firm ice was real. And helping out the boy who almost drowned me, that was real. Finally the walk home in sub-freezing weather was real, only his was real a little longer as he lived a few houses further away. Now tell me what part of that was an illusion; the burning pain, the wet clothes, almost dying, what?
Chad R. Herman February 08, 2013 at 07:21 PM
Thank you so much for the comment!!! I have to agree with Robert above as to how I meant this post. In no way am I saying your experiences are an illusion..per se. How we see something, anything really, is what it is based on our perception. A person pulls out in front of me and I slam on the brakes. Did this event happen? Yes...but did it all happen in the way I perceived it? I can get angry at the driver, therefore I perceived this person is attacking me directly. Rather than thinking that maybe it was a mistake and I was in their blind spot. All of our actions are based on that perception. In your situation, the physical all happened in the way YOU saw it. However, change your perception and everything changes. The crack happened because: the earth is against you, you were irresponsible, you were destined to have this experience to create the person you are today, you were allowed to become closer with the person you were with, you were luck y enough to see that life is truly fragile. The point of the post was to say - each moment of our life is based on our perception and reality doesn't exist because everyone is perceiving this event in a different way therefore everyone's reality is different. chad herman motivatingforpositivechange.com
Chad R. Herman February 08, 2013 at 07:22 PM
I totally agree. Thank you for the comment! Chad Herman motivatingforpositivechange.com
Gary Moos February 08, 2013 at 08:59 PM
I understood what you meant. The two point I was getting at were: 1) There must be a certain amount of my reality that overlaps with your reality, or we would not be able to communicate. In your terms we all buy in to the illusion. I say We must all buy into some parts of the illusion in order to agree that water is wet and fire is hot. 2) This is not a stage. Your actions have very real consequences. I would say that we all walk around with filters that stand between an objective reality and our personal reality. Some of the filters we are born with, and some we learn. If we take the time to notice these filters, and how they affect our perseptions we may be able to change some of our filters and possibly live in a different reality. That's a philosophical argument I would buy into.


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